GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE A CHOICE AGAIN OF MARRYING YOUR SPOUSE, WILL YOU STILL PICK HIM/HER? (2)

I just read a funny statement and it goes thus, “ The brain is the most outstanding thing in the world, it works 24hrs a day and 365 days a year, from your birth until you fall in Love” (Laughing), Isn’t it Funny that this is true for many people. Given the opportunity to choose my spouse again, I will say yes to him again and again and again. Y??? Like I said earlier, there are many ingredients that contribute to making a good soup sweet. You can’t mix water and salt only and expect to have a rich and good soup,( ko possible {as Yoruba’s will say}), The ingredients have to be complete, accurate and very good, not forgetting that the quantities may vary but they all come together , mix up and become a very scintillating  delicacy. In marriage, or even relationships, you don’t have to be treading on egg shells because of your spouse, that’s the first person that is supposed to know your first thought, You gotta be Naked and not ashamed with that person. Naked does not necessarily mean “bodily naked” but to bare your heart at any point to each other without thinking what the other person will say about you. Now, that’s true friendship in marriage.

Ingredient number 1: Set Loving and Realistic Rules for yourself, Rules again Right! – I can assure you that it works. Rules are guidelines set by a body in authority to checkmate actions and guide them a right to achieve a conducive environment and curtail excesses especially when dealing with Humans. Therefore, Rules are not made to break us or to make us tread on egg shells but to make Peace and maintain a cordial and respectful relationship which is very important in any Relationship. Remember, these rules have to be healthy, and objective. Examples of such rules are

·         whatever goes wrong we don’t have to shout on each other to proof the point”, “

·         we must not go to bed angry at each other, all wrongs or anger must be resolved before or at dinner” ‘

·         we must not involve a third party except when we agree we cannot resolve the issue between us”,

·         we must not drop calls on each other in the middle of a misunderstanding or due to anger”

And there could be so much more.

Rules are meant to guide us, to help us try and understand the other person’s point of view but majorly to curtail excesses due to human tendencies. Do not allow yourself to make excuses to break the Rules because once broken, will always be broken

Did You Notice that each of the Rules start with We? This is because both of you have to seat and make the decisions together and agree on what to and what not to.